Hey everybody! Today we’re gonna talk about 5 warning signs that you’re seeing a bad therapist *music* let’s just jump right into it. I heard from a lot of you that you are seeing someone who hasn’t been working for you or something bad has happened and so I think it’s important for us to talk about how do we know when we’re seeing a bad therapist and the first is that we feel like we have to prove something like they don’t really believe you when you say you’re having a hard time or you’re struggling with XY or Z and so we therefore try to make it worse because we feel like we need to prove how sick we are second and something that would drive me crazy is that they don’t remember anything they never remember what we talked about last. They don’t remember what your sister’s name was or what you did or what the whole reason that you’re here and that one thing you talked about a few weeks ago they just don’t remember anything it makes you feel like they’re not even listening. The third is one that I actually talked about in a previous video ethics and therapy but that is when your therapist allows you to text call or email them anytime and they get right back to you and the reason this isn’t good is because it actually creates a really unhealthy relationship it makes you completely dependent on your therapist versus the healthy thing which is I’m going to teach you some tips and tricks and then you go out in the world new practice come back and let me know how it goes and obviously there is the caveat that if we are suicidal there may be a safety plan in place where we call or text or therapist when we’re feeling like we’re a danger to ourselves and they meet us at the hospital or something like that the fourth sign and one that I don’t think people talk about enough is if you just chat like friends and you never work on anything you don’t actually get anything done there’s no treatment plan there’s no goals we’re not really working towards anything we’re just kind of paying to hang out and in truth that’s not therapy at all now obviously if we’ve been working with our therapist for a long time and now we’re doing well and we find ourselves having less and less talk about congratulations that means that you’ve met all your goals and it’s time to stop therapy for a while but if we’ve never worked for anything or many of our goals and we’re just chatting like friends then I think it’s time to find somebody else. Fifth and final warning sign that you have a bad therapist is that they talk about themselves a lot this is your time I know that it feels weird at first because we’re used to conversations being two way but in therapy it’s all about the client if I wanted to talk about myself what that really means is as a therapist I need to get in therapy because if I can’t give you your whole hour and focus on you and your progress that I’m not being a therapist at all hope it was helpful I get a lot of questions all the time about whether or not this is ethical behavior whether or not, they- you’re with a good therapist or bad therapist and I hope this just kind of shows you some red flags and signs and warnings to know that you need to get out and find someone better because we all deserve to get help, right? By the time we reach out sometimes we feel like we’re at the end of our rope and I just want each and every one of you to get the proper help that you need and deserve and please share this because I don’t think people talk about this enough and I think it’s important for us all to know and if you’re new here, click to subscribe and if you want more videos about behind the scenes of the therapists look over here and I will see you next time. Bye!